Friday, January 5, 2018

Make a Statement!

I downloaded an app called "Statement" awhile ago to use when I go mute in the company of other people. It's simple in it's elegance and you can save a whole bunch of custom statements! I don't always remember I have it, but I'm trying to use it more.

Wednesday, December 20, 2017


Something that has been apparent to me for a long time is when you try to be as open and transparent about a significant thing as possible, someone will view it as baseless complaining, someone will blow it off as attention grabbing, someone will chalk it up to being pitiable, and someone will experience multiple emotions that include relief when they realize "Oh thank god. Me too. I'm not alone in this thing that the general population doesn't want to hear about". 

I definitely appreciate when someone says that something I've written about illness and disability has caused them to think about things from a different angle. That's what I started blogging for. Over time, I realized that, while my original motivation is still important, the "I'm not alone" people are my priority. I've been that person multiple times and might not have pushed through without someone else who was/is also occupying the same space.

Today is my one year autism diagnosis anniversary (which i had forgotten about until FB reminded me. Thanks, FB!).  It was a long time coming and, even though some people have been shitty about it, more have been super supportive -- even when they don't understand. Specific thanks to the other autistic folks who have been there for me. Gold!

Monday, November 27, 2017

Moira the Tiny Luck Dragon

Meet Moira! She is about 2 1/2 years old, 5 pounds, and wants only to love and be loved. She is a dachshund/yorkie mix (a dorkie?) and doesn't make me sneeze. Henry and I adopted her on 11/15/17 from Homeward Pet in Woodinville, WA and I have only nice things to say about them.

Moira is an ethereal being with universes behind her dark eyes. She is also my psychiatrist sanctioned Emotional Support Animal for autism, and soon to be therapy dog-in-training. I look forward to her joining me in hospice volunteering!

Tuesday, September 26, 2017


"You're autistic? What's your special skill?" The ability to write in mirror image with either hand. Where's my cash prize?
I'm early for Invisible Disabilities Week, but I'm also home alone staring at makeup I never wear anymore. I fit in all of my disabling diagnoses AND some irritating-as-hell ones. I guess that makes this shower time!

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

"Inspirational Soundtrack"

Starlight, star bright: If I end up a subject in an otherwise cloying "inspirational" video, pleeease let the soundtrack oscillate between <atmospheric droning> and <atmospheric droning intensifies>.

Monday, July 10, 2017

You Know How There's Always "That Person" Who Ruins It For Everyone Else?

Since no one reads past headlines and captions before reacting to a story anymore, I direct your attention to my take on this poorly written article from KING5 news:

"Puyallup couple lucky at casino, unlucky with feds"
"Court records show the couple won $1,604,652 on slot machines. They also received more than $80,000 in Social Security disability benefits." (KING 5 Facebook caption 7/9/17)

Did you read the article? All of it?


You know how there's always someone out there who ruins it for everyone else? This is the kind of article people point to when they want to be right about welfare and social security fraud.

-Though Mann's disability is legitimate, she did break the law by not declaring her casino winnings. Social Security Disability fraud is rare. So is welfare fraud.*

"Court records show that gambling winnings from Mann and her husband since 2012 have totaled $1,604,652 on slot machines. Records show that during the same time period, Mann received more than $80,000 in Social Security disability benefits, food stamps, and medical coverage."

-THIS HAPPENED OVER THE COURSE OF FIVE YEARS. The article makes it seem like people roll around in money when receiving Social Security Disability benefits. Yeah, no. The Facebook caption for this article in particular is very misleading.

By sensationalising something society already loves the taste of invented blood for, this article adds heavily to the stigma for those who legitimately qualify for and use services.

*I'm not in a good enough mental place to be able to navigate the jumble of actual research out there in a way that makes sense to link here. I tried, y'all. Go forth and use your critical thinking and Google skills!